Through Rose Coloured Glasses
Sometimes life throws us a curve that may cause us to feel sorry for ourselves or to become discouraged. It may be issues at your work place, a relationship that is not going well or any other number of things. Believe it or not, there is a purpose for adversity. As Arianna Huffington states in her new book “Thrive”, “there is a hidden purpose – and alchemy – in suffering that’s transmuted into wisdom and strength”.
Recently, in a local grocery store, a lady walked passed me and I caught a whiff of the fragrance she was wearing. It was Elizabeth Arden’s Red Door perfume. I know that scent so well, as my Mom wore it for the last few years of her life. Immediately, a flood of memories came back to me, all of them linked to that distinct fragrance.
I recently wrote about things that happy people do often. The other day I read an announcement, inviting people to celebrate the 65th wedding anniversary of a local couple. That got me thinking about why some marriages success (such as that couple’s marriage of 65 years) and why other marriages fail. What is it that successful couples do to stay together for many years? When searching for an answer, I came across a blog post by Dr. Dana Fillmore called “10 Things Happy Couples Do”. As I read through her list of common-sense, easy to do suggestions, I realized I wanted to share this advice, so here it is: the ten things happy couples do.
I hope that you enjoyed Mother’s Day this week-end, whether you are a mother or a child – or both. This was my first Mother’s Day since my Mom passed away. And although the last couple Mother’s Days have been different from previous year as Mom’s Alzheimer’s worsened, at least she was still here physically. I no longer took her out for dinner or had a family BBQ at my house in her honour as we did before she became ill, but I could still visit with her and I still felt that part of her was still here. So this year things were certainly not the same. It is always wonderful to spend time with my sons on this special day but my thoughts floated back to years gone by when Mom was here to celebrate with us.
Happiness: everyone is in pursuit of it, yet it is the one thing that eludes so many. There is good news and bad news on the search for happiness. According to an article written by Jeff Haden, fifty percent of your level of happiness, or your ”happiness set-point” as he calls it, is largely hereditary and is therefore out of your control. However, the good news is that fifty percent is within your control and there are things you can to make yourself happier. In fact, Haden lists seven things in particular you can do to improve your level of happiness.